Thursday, September 18, 2014
I am not a negative person, well that's what my positive affirmation book tells me and I try to read it everyday, with little to no success. On a more serious note though, there have been many things in my life of late that have unfortunately left a somewhat foul taste in my mouth, the foul taste of negativity.
Trying to remove these so called "tastes" has proven to be a rather difficult task or tasks, and I am again finding myself in search of anything that will get my positive vibes back up and running again. I mean ANYTHING.
After scrolling and trolling through every self help word available to man via google and an endless array of quotes, I stumbled across a picture that I had heard about many years ago by an artist that goes by the name of Yoko Ono. Yep, that bizarre diminutive Japanese lady that used to be married to a Beatle, and who is also working harder than ever at spreading her desire for peace and love the world over. I know this for a fact, I saw her live in Sydney last year and she really means what she says, "War is over. If you want it."
I digress. Ms.Ono had created this piece titled "cleaning piece" for an art exhibit in Venice. As always, the style was explicitly simple with a very powerful message, a message that I am going to "try" to adopt over the coming months, "Try to say nothing negative about anybody." Easy, right? I mean, I pride myself on not talking (too much) smack about others, but every now and again a situation or situations, usually in the human form, test my ability to not say unkind things about bad or idiotic behaviours. Well now I have three options at trying this experiment, 3 days, 45 days and/or 3 months. I'm going to go all in, 3 months.
As Ms.Ono said recently when asked about this piece, all you can do is try. Trying is the more powerful of all the words on this little piece of paper, without it we will never truly know if we are actually able, able to do anything really. Let me see what happens to my life, I'm sure I am going to be surprised, if not by the outcome, at least for the fact that I "tried" to stick to something for longer than a week.
Monday, September 15, 2014
Just when you think you have nothing left to give, that everything you had emotionally was used up on previous loves, someone comes along to challenge everything you ever knew. Someone who doesn't fit the bill of anything you have ever known or imagined you would be with.
Yet through all the uncertainty and societal do's and don'ts where matters of the heart are concerned, you just know that this one, this person, will be in your life no matter what the future holds. That this person shares the same values as you, honesty, loyalty, integrity and truly gets what the words friendship and love really mean.
That everything you thought you knew, was wrong and you need to readjust your thoughts and processes on life, love and relationships. There are no excuses with this person, no reasons to not be open, no lies, no bullshit stories and an openness that is well beyond his years. This persons words have value, meaning and absolutely no hidden agenda.
I'm more scarred from the last few loves than I care to admit and in particular the last two long term ones. There were so many lies and injustices that I am scared to give my most fragile of gifts, my heart, to anyone again. But this always happens right? You think you have it ALL worked out, that you have found the love of your life and for some reason or reasons it ends, sometimes ok and sometimes bad, very bad. You swear you will NEVER EVER open your heart to anyone again, and there in the distance comes some little angry, but ever so kind, human being, marching to the beat of their own drum, born with many lifetimes behind them and a certainty of what it is they want. A soul well beyond his or her years. Where the hell did you come from and why did you choose me?
Love. Just go with it.
Friday, September 12, 2014
As if this wasn't/isn't reason enough!
I wrote this piece two and a half years ago. I remember friends telling me at the time "Don't worry, this is all going to change within the next year. Yep, give it a year Matt and this will all be apart of history."
Nothing has changed and its now two and a half years...
I have never been one to sit on the fence, don’t ask me why this is, I have just always had an opinion. This is not to say that my opinion is always right, I mean after all, an opinion is just that.
It was my Oma who always told me to “never sit on the fence. No good has ever come from someone sitting on the fence, because at some point the fence will crumble." It was words like this that gave me a strong sense of ones opinion(s) and their importance in life. Very wise and very true words that I carry with me today.
In recent times many “traditional” opinions have been challenged and subsequently changed, whether by law, religiously, ways of thinking or plainly in peoples hearts. Think of the women’s suffrage movement, the civil rights movement and even the way people treat their beloved pets. All things that have gone through drastic change and more importantly, education and a mind set over haul. It brings me to a massive issue that is sweeping the world at the moment, marriage equality.
Now I am not going to harp on about the inequalities that these archaic and unfounded laws pose for gay people and their right to live their life the way they see fit, but I will say that I am hugely disappointed at groups like the Christian lobby and their unrelenting smear campaign against the gay community. I mean what ever happened to “Love thy neighbor” ? I thought that a truly religious person is not meant to judge? Maybe I am wrong. Then again, who am I to judge?
You see, gay people pose NO threat to society in any way what so ever. We (yes, I am one of those very people) do not start wars, we do not form gangs and terrorise people, and I am sure the crime rate amongst gay people would not be surprisingly low. What we do is, pay our taxes (like you and the rest of the country), we love like you do, we hurt like you do, we love our country like you do, we love our friends and family like you do and yes, some of us even have faith like you do. It is time that people stopped fearing us and treated us with the same rights that the rest of the country has, the same rights that we go to vote at the polls with like you and the same rights that protect the country we live in, just like you. I guess you could say, we really are just like YOU.
Please look past the rubbish that is being thrown around at the moment and find it in your heart to see that we too, have a right to love the one we love and should we so desire, marry that special person. I truly believe that my beautiful country, the country that has welcomed people from ALL over the world, will recognise Marriage Equality. Isn’t that what Australia is all about, equality for ALL of its citizens?
#Marriageequality for all!
Monday, September 8, 2014
A scar. What is a scar? From a wound in fighting, an operation or a broken heart.
Everyone speaks of the healing process and that like all things, the wound will eventually heal and you will be left this so called "scar". A marking of something that once was, whether it be good or bad. A badge of honour for some.
As with any healing process, you need to know how to care for this wound, to converse about the best possible way for it to heal. A doctor explains this in great detail with a physical wound, but with matters of the heart, well, you either get it or you don't. More often than not, you don't.
I have loved but a few in my life, true loves that is. I have been burnt by love too. Strangely, my heart is still warm and open to the idea that one day I will be truly loved. A friend questioned me on this other day and I responded with "I have loved with all my heart and many times, I have had that very heart ripped from my chest. But if I had not had these experiences, how will I be able to decipher the good from the bad?"
In order to understand what true and honest love is, we unfortunately need to experience this pain of love lost, a heart broken or someone just walking out of your life with no explanation. A scar will eventually form and from time to time you will look back and remember just what it is that "true love" means to you, and appreciate it when it (true love) eventually presents itself to you.
Don't stop loving and find forgiveness in your heart, not everyone is perfect, but everyone does deserve forgiveness and sometimes its this forgiveness that will also assist them in their healing process too. We all have wounds.
Love, four simple letters that can make or break a heart.